I would like to welcome David Gruder,Ph.D., author of The New IQ, to Cafe of Dreams! I want to thank Mr. Gruder for taking the time to write such an interesting post.
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Prosperity Myths Versus Happiness Secrets
by David Gruder, PhD
By now almost all of us know that our economic meltdown was directly caused by massive greed. This post is about what caused that greed and the changes we need to make in our life fulfillment formula so this kind of meltdown doesn’t happen again.
HOW DID WE GET SO GREEDY?
Greed is, of course, nothing new. What’s new is how our culture’s life fulfillment formula has shifted over the past half-century from real prosperity to the delusion of prosperity.
The 1960s birthed a massive rebellion against the huge conformity that characterized the 1950s. By the 1970s, mainstream society had entered an age of moral relativism in which anything goes as long as you can convince yourself there is a way to justify it. By the 1980s this “anything goes” attitude had given way to a completely rewritten life fulfillment formula. We pursued this new formula with great enthusiasm until our economy collapsed from the weight of its unsustainability.
Here are the life fulfillment formulas that characterized those decades:
1950s Life Fulfillment = Work hard at a secure job + Raise a family in a lifetime marriage + Conform to the rules of your society and religion.
1960s Life Fulfillment = Be yourself no matter what others think + love the one you’re with + overthrow cultural conformity.
1970s Life Fulfillment = It’s all relative – figure it out for yourself.
1980s Life Fulfillment = Wealth + lifestyle. This formula became our collective justification for the self-indulgent greed and entitlement that ultimately tore apart the fabric of our economy and indeed our integrity as a society.
Our current economic meltdown was the unavoidable consequence of our devotion to the greed-based life fulfillment formula that solidified in the 1980s. Our economy will not return to sustainability until our society embraces a life fulfillment formula capable of creating sustainable happiness. Before revealing that formula, let me first drop one more bombshell about our economy. It is about how capitalism was hijacked and replaced with another economic system.
THE REAL REASON PEOPLE ARE DISTRESSED BY THIS RECESSION
Our culture of greed and entitlement placed pressure on wealth and lifestyle to provide more than it is actually capable of providing by itself. Our obsession with this unsustainable life fulfillment formula caused us to abandon true capitalism in favor of a devastatingly unsustainable economic system. Hint: it’s NOT socialism. It’s “Debtism:” borrowing extensively against an uncertain future in order to create an illusion of profitability and wealth today, by living the lifestyle we think will make us happy.
Debtism is the prosperity myth that collapsed our economy. The faulty life fulfillment formula we embraced in the 1980s spawned the downfall of capitalism and the rise of Debtism.
THE SOLUTION TO GREED IS THE SECRET TO HAPPINESS
There is a hidden clause in the 1980s “wealth + lifestyle life” fulfillment formula that devastated not only our economy but our integrity. I call it “The Narcissism Clause:” in order to attain wealth and lifestyle it is necessary to sacrifice integrity, people and social responsibility.
We as a society are beginning to realize that the damage created by narcissistic greed and entitlement engendered by the 1980s life fulfillment formula has finally caught up with all of us. The real reason many people are distressed by our economic collapse is because they intuitively know it means the jig is up with culturally condoned narcissism pretending to be prosperity. These people are panicking because if the life fulfillment formula they devoted themselves to is indeed faulty, they have no idea what life fulfillment formula to replace it with!
The good news is that a sustainable life fulfillment formula does exist, and it is being embraced by everyday people, leaders, and the media, across the political and faith spectrums. The reason this formula is receiving such broad-based support is because it is based in common sense that transcends ideology. It is based in what lives at our hearts as human beings. It is based on the three core motivations or drives we humans have:
To be who we truly are... this is our drive for authenticity.
To bond with others... this is our drive for connection.
To positively influence the world around us... this is our drive for impact.
Living at the intersection of these three core drives is the real secret to happiness. The life fulfillment formula for the 21st century is: authenticity + connection + impact = life fulfillment.
Not only does life fulfillment live at the intersection of these three core drives. So does integrity! Authenticity translates into self-integrity. Connection translates into relationship integrity. Impact translates into societal integrity. This is why the hidden clause in this 21st century life fulfillment formula is the socially responsible pursuit of wealth and lifestyle.
The “authenticity + connection + impact” life fulfillment formula is so deeply fulfilling that people who adopt it feel LESS happy if they sacrifice integrity, people or social responsibility to create the wealth and lifestyle they want! THIS is the change we need.
I invite you to join the millions of everyday people to world leaders who are finding happiness through creating success, abundance and impact without sacrificing life balance, loved ones, social responsibility or integrity. As more and more of us make this shift, we will birth a stable and sustainable economic system the likes of which our world has never seen: socially responsible capitalism.
You will find a world of resources to help you embrace and embody this 21st century life fulfillment formula, and to help our society reconfigure itself around it by going to http://www.TheNewIQ.com
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About David Gruder, Ph.D.:
David Gruder, PhD, DCEP, is perhaps the world’s only clinical-organizational psychologist specializing in integrity development. Known as "The Integritizer," he is the leader in transpartisan nondenominational strategies for solving the massive integrity deficits that have caused today's vast social, economic, and political challenges. Dr. Gruder founded the "Integritize America Campaign," an integrity stimulus plan for renewing personal, relationship and societal integrity so we can finally co-create sustainable solutions to today's most challenging issues. His latest book, "THE NEW IQ: How Integrity Intelligence Serves You, Your Relationships and our World," is the world's first step-by-step guide to attaining personal, relationship, and career fulfillment during difficult times without sacrificing ethics and integrity. It has won five book awards in the areas of "social change," (book of the year), "current events in politics and society" (honorable mention), "health & wellness" (book of the year), "self-help" (bronze medal) and "metapsychology" (book of the year). A professional speaker and trainer for almost three decades, Dr. Gruder speaks, trains, consults worldwide on how to "Integritize" citizens, government, communities, businesses, health care, education, religion, journalism, advocacy groups, and leadership. His clients have ranged from family-owned businesses to American Express work teams, from the Sanoviv Medical Institute to the San Diego Office of Education Management Academy, and from local politicians and executives to World Trade Organization ambassadors. His main website is http://www.TheNewIQ.com
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About The New IQ:
From the White House, to the board room, to the privacy of our own bedrooms, and virtually everywhere in between, integrity deficits are destroying our personal lives, our businesses, our economy, our healthcare, our society, and our planet.
Creating sustainable integrity-centered solutions to today's vast array of major challenges requires us, as individuals and as a society, to take a fresh look at what creates life fulfillment. It requires us as citizens to develop a new integrity-centered vision of what we need to require from our leaders in government, business, advocacy groups, community organizations and the media.
The New IQ is the world's first road-tested guide to integrity-centered living, working, loving, and serving. Hailed as a "once-in-a-generation book," it provides the first step-by-step road map for restoring the vanishing virtue of integrity... for the sake of our loved ones, our communities, our businesses, our society, and our own personal wellbeing.
Going far beyond being a self-help book, this critically acclaimed five-award-winning action plan offers a socially responsible way to attain personal, relationship, and career fulfillment during difficult times, without sacrificing ethics and integrity. Here at last is your complete guide to "personal development that serves us all."
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Prosperity Myths Versus Happiness Secrets
by David Gruder, PhD
By now almost all of us know that our economic meltdown was directly caused by massive greed. This post is about what caused that greed and the changes we need to make in our life fulfillment formula so this kind of meltdown doesn’t happen again.
HOW DID WE GET SO GREEDY?
Greed is, of course, nothing new. What’s new is how our culture’s life fulfillment formula has shifted over the past half-century from real prosperity to the delusion of prosperity.
The 1960s birthed a massive rebellion against the huge conformity that characterized the 1950s. By the 1970s, mainstream society had entered an age of moral relativism in which anything goes as long as you can convince yourself there is a way to justify it. By the 1980s this “anything goes” attitude had given way to a completely rewritten life fulfillment formula. We pursued this new formula with great enthusiasm until our economy collapsed from the weight of its unsustainability.
Here are the life fulfillment formulas that characterized those decades:
1950s Life Fulfillment = Work hard at a secure job + Raise a family in a lifetime marriage + Conform to the rules of your society and religion.
1960s Life Fulfillment = Be yourself no matter what others think + love the one you’re with + overthrow cultural conformity.
1970s Life Fulfillment = It’s all relative – figure it out for yourself.
1980s Life Fulfillment = Wealth + lifestyle. This formula became our collective justification for the self-indulgent greed and entitlement that ultimately tore apart the fabric of our economy and indeed our integrity as a society.
Our current economic meltdown was the unavoidable consequence of our devotion to the greed-based life fulfillment formula that solidified in the 1980s. Our economy will not return to sustainability until our society embraces a life fulfillment formula capable of creating sustainable happiness. Before revealing that formula, let me first drop one more bombshell about our economy. It is about how capitalism was hijacked and replaced with another economic system.
THE REAL REASON PEOPLE ARE DISTRESSED BY THIS RECESSION
Our culture of greed and entitlement placed pressure on wealth and lifestyle to provide more than it is actually capable of providing by itself. Our obsession with this unsustainable life fulfillment formula caused us to abandon true capitalism in favor of a devastatingly unsustainable economic system. Hint: it’s NOT socialism. It’s “Debtism:” borrowing extensively against an uncertain future in order to create an illusion of profitability and wealth today, by living the lifestyle we think will make us happy.
Debtism is the prosperity myth that collapsed our economy. The faulty life fulfillment formula we embraced in the 1980s spawned the downfall of capitalism and the rise of Debtism.
THE SOLUTION TO GREED IS THE SECRET TO HAPPINESS
There is a hidden clause in the 1980s “wealth + lifestyle life” fulfillment formula that devastated not only our economy but our integrity. I call it “The Narcissism Clause:” in order to attain wealth and lifestyle it is necessary to sacrifice integrity, people and social responsibility.
We as a society are beginning to realize that the damage created by narcissistic greed and entitlement engendered by the 1980s life fulfillment formula has finally caught up with all of us. The real reason many people are distressed by our economic collapse is because they intuitively know it means the jig is up with culturally condoned narcissism pretending to be prosperity. These people are panicking because if the life fulfillment formula they devoted themselves to is indeed faulty, they have no idea what life fulfillment formula to replace it with!
The good news is that a sustainable life fulfillment formula does exist, and it is being embraced by everyday people, leaders, and the media, across the political and faith spectrums. The reason this formula is receiving such broad-based support is because it is based in common sense that transcends ideology. It is based in what lives at our hearts as human beings. It is based on the three core motivations or drives we humans have:
To be who we truly are... this is our drive for authenticity.
To bond with others... this is our drive for connection.
To positively influence the world around us... this is our drive for impact.
Living at the intersection of these three core drives is the real secret to happiness. The life fulfillment formula for the 21st century is: authenticity + connection + impact = life fulfillment.
Not only does life fulfillment live at the intersection of these three core drives. So does integrity! Authenticity translates into self-integrity. Connection translates into relationship integrity. Impact translates into societal integrity. This is why the hidden clause in this 21st century life fulfillment formula is the socially responsible pursuit of wealth and lifestyle.
The “authenticity + connection + impact” life fulfillment formula is so deeply fulfilling that people who adopt it feel LESS happy if they sacrifice integrity, people or social responsibility to create the wealth and lifestyle they want! THIS is the change we need.
I invite you to join the millions of everyday people to world leaders who are finding happiness through creating success, abundance and impact without sacrificing life balance, loved ones, social responsibility or integrity. As more and more of us make this shift, we will birth a stable and sustainable economic system the likes of which our world has never seen: socially responsible capitalism.
You will find a world of resources to help you embrace and embody this 21st century life fulfillment formula, and to help our society reconfigure itself around it by going to http://www.TheNewIQ.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
About David Gruder, Ph.D.:
David Gruder, PhD, DCEP, is perhaps the world’s only clinical-organizational psychologist specializing in integrity development. Known as "The Integritizer," he is the leader in transpartisan nondenominational strategies for solving the massive integrity deficits that have caused today's vast social, economic, and political challenges. Dr. Gruder founded the "Integritize America Campaign," an integrity stimulus plan for renewing personal, relationship and societal integrity so we can finally co-create sustainable solutions to today's most challenging issues. His latest book, "THE NEW IQ: How Integrity Intelligence Serves You, Your Relationships and our World," is the world's first step-by-step guide to attaining personal, relationship, and career fulfillment during difficult times without sacrificing ethics and integrity. It has won five book awards in the areas of "social change," (book of the year), "current events in politics and society" (honorable mention), "health & wellness" (book of the year), "self-help" (bronze medal) and "metapsychology" (book of the year). A professional speaker and trainer for almost three decades, Dr. Gruder speaks, trains, consults worldwide on how to "Integritize" citizens, government, communities, businesses, health care, education, religion, journalism, advocacy groups, and leadership. His clients have ranged from family-owned businesses to American Express work teams, from the Sanoviv Medical Institute to the San Diego Office of Education Management Academy, and from local politicians and executives to World Trade Organization ambassadors. His main website is http://www.TheNewIQ.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
About The New IQ:
From the White House, to the board room, to the privacy of our own bedrooms, and virtually everywhere in between, integrity deficits are destroying our personal lives, our businesses, our economy, our healthcare, our society, and our planet.
Creating sustainable integrity-centered solutions to today's vast array of major challenges requires us, as individuals and as a society, to take a fresh look at what creates life fulfillment. It requires us as citizens to develop a new integrity-centered vision of what we need to require from our leaders in government, business, advocacy groups, community organizations and the media.
The New IQ is the world's first road-tested guide to integrity-centered living, working, loving, and serving. Hailed as a "once-in-a-generation book," it provides the first step-by-step road map for restoring the vanishing virtue of integrity... for the sake of our loved ones, our communities, our businesses, our society, and our own personal wellbeing.
Going far beyond being a self-help book, this critically acclaimed five-award-winning action plan offers a socially responsible way to attain personal, relationship, and career fulfillment during difficult times, without sacrificing ethics and integrity. Here at last is your complete guide to "personal development that serves us all."
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That's an interesting post. I read it with pleasure even though I don't necessarily agree about the greed thing. In my experience living in this country for 7 years I must say, Americans are the least greedy people I've known. That was one of the first shocking things I experienced when I just came here. Compared to some other countries and nationalities, we (I just got my citizenship, yay!) are a very, very generous country and people.
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